It's wedding season. Meredith, I am single and 21, and I slept with this guy at a wedding – and actually had a great time. It was so passionate (it felt that way to me, anyway). There was a lot of intimacy, lots of making out and eye locking. Anyway, we woke up and I thought it was going to be weird, but he smiled and said good morning, and we spent the day together. When we drove around, he held my hand or kept his hand on my thigh. At the end of that day, I said goodbye and he gave me the biggest and tightest hug, kissed me passionately, and then asked for my number. Later, he texted me "hey beautiful" and asked if I wanted to the ocean, but we weren't able to be free at the same time. We haven't been able to coordinate – he's had plans – but he's continued to text. Also, I spotted a Facebook status of his that suggested he wasn't single ... but when I asked him about it, he said it was old, and he took it down. Should I continue to try to see him? Does he … [Read more...] about Can it be more than one night of passion?
We will chat at 1 p.m. I'm a divorced dad of two beautiful kids (young teens). I got divorced in 2010 and have shared custody with my ex-wife. In 2013, I met Beth (not her real name) a tall, caring, silly, loving, sensitive, and beautiful woman. We hit it off instantly and for the next 4.5 years we were together. Beth had no kids, nor did she want to have any of her own, but said she was open to dating someone with children. We got along really well and had great chemistry. We laughed a lot, had many of the same interests, and enjoyed each other's company. We traveled together. I felt a real connection with her. Something I had not felt with anyone else. There was one problem with the relationship from the start, though. I do have kids, which made scheduling time for each other challenging. She felt we could only see each other when I was available. And to a certain extent that was true. It bothered her more and more as our relationship grew. When I had my kids with me, Beth and I … [Read more...] about Is it really possible to date if you have kids?
You know what? Let's do some updates. Former letter writers, even recent ones: Tell us what happened after you wrote in, and whether we helped. Send your email to [email protected] with "update" in the subject line. Include your original email so I know it's you. Dear Meredith, I have been dating a wonderful man exclusively since the beginning of the year. He's kind and thoughtful and treats me extremely well. I have feelings for him that I haven't had for anyone in a long time. We're both 50-somethings and divorced with kids. I'm fortunate in that my ex and I have an amicable relationship and co-parent well together. He is not so lucky. His ex is a nightmare, and the years since his divorce have been brutal with many court battles, particularly with respect to his kids. Everything was going great between us until three weeks ago when some difficult things arose regarding the current court battle that sent him to a bad place emotionally. I've been trying to give him space, … [Read more...] about How do I coax him out of his cave?
A day off from chat today. We will resume next week. Hello Meredith and LL Community, I dated someone named G when I was a teenager, and because of the typical move away to school, we broke up but stayed in each other's lives for the better part of our 20s (we are in our mid/late 30s now). Platonic group vacations with friends, visits to where the other lived, holidays, one-on-one dinners. He had a girlfriend through college and beyond, and we never revisited getting back together despite our friends pushing us to do so. However, we fell out of touch because I got busy with family stuff almost a decade ago. I have been in a relationship with Z for the last seven years, a person I count as my best friend. We've had ups and downs, family emergencies, moves, job changes, and we are solid. There has not been intimacy for a few years, and that's on both sides, but we are taking steps to work through it. We always shoot straight with each other when we talk. I am still happy to come home … [Read more...] about Feelings for my ex ‘came flooding back’
NEWS 06/07/2018 01:57 pm ET Jack Peterson believed he was too ugly to get laid. In a dark corner of the internet, he found acceptance among a community of losers. Now he wants out. By Melissa Jeltsen In May, Jack Peterson went on a Tinder date. With a woman. They ate at an Italian restaurant in downtown Chicago, and made casual chitchat about themselves. It was an ordinary date in every way. But for 19-year-old Peterson, it was an achievement of epic proportions. Until recently, Peterson identified as an “incel,” or involuntarily celibate. Incels believe that, due to reasons entirely beyond their control ― too short, too bald, too weak a jawline ― they cannot attract a female partner. They believe they’re doomed to remain alone, forever. For many incels, this fatalistic worldview is paired with a toxic hatred of women, whom they blame for their lonely predicament. Incels regularly denigrate and dehumanize women in online forums; … [Read more...] about The Unmaking Of An Incel